It Was a Man’s World

There is a simple explanation as to why women expect men to pay every time the waiter delivers the check.  They think it’s just tradition at work.  It dates back thousands of years to the days when Igor, Egor, and Ogor, the prehistoric versions of Moe, Larry, and Curly, set out before sun-up with visions of brontosaurus baby-back ribs dancing in their heads.  They encountered Brute the Bronto, who salivated at the sight of three hairy dudes in loincloths running around wildly waving clubs in the air, and it instantly became a case of survival of the fittest.  The three cavemen wanted to win the battle because a) they were all hungry b) they wanted to get laid that night and knew they could exchange provisions for sex, and c) the Flintstones Burger Barn drive-through was closed at that time of the morning.  

The women stayed behind, raised the children, and tended to the chores needed to keep the cave in order.  When the men returned to the village with their spoils, the women skinned the ribs, stuffed the head, and prepared the meals, while the men read the sports section of the Prehistoric Sun-Times and sat gazing at the fire.  Sound familiar?  A few millennia ago dinner was freshly killed meat served in a cave; today it is Chinese take-out on granite counter tops or Surf and Turf for two with a platinum card on a white tablecloth.  It’s the modern day version of the old hunter/gatherer dynamic.    

But spending money isn’t a function of gender; it is a medium of exchange.  Men traditionally paid for dates, and everything else for that matter, because they were typically the only ones working and earning money.  But being born male doesn’t mean that by default one is required to pay for everything.  Women need to accept that a penis no longer equals a paycheck.  Now that they’re earning their own money, they can pay for dinner and a movie sometimes too.  It’s time they ante up!

It was a man’s world, but men need to wake up and realize that their egos are costing them money.  As long as they continue to believe that the thickness of their wallets is directly proportional to their success in the dating game, women will continue to let them believe it.  And while the guys are busy constantly measuring their manhood, the girls will continue to expand their already swelling bank accounts.  And people say size is no indication of performance.  What do you think?  What are your QCP’s? (Questions, Comments, or Protests) 

Ron Stout has a B.A. in Psychology and an M.S. in Counseling & Human Development. He is an adjunct professor teaching college courses in Educational Psychology, Human Development, and Personal & Social Adjustment, and he is the author of the popular book Secrets From Inside The Clubhouse: What Men REALLY Think About Women.

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