The Third Date Phenomenon

Everybody knows about the Third Date Phenomenon, right?  It’s sex on the third date or there is no fourth date.  But fifty percent of women surveyed said they want Mr. Wiggly even before date No. 3.  These women actually want sex by date No. 2, but if it doesn’t happen by the third date, they figure it’s time to move on.  They assume the guy’s abstinence is hiding a secret such as, “He must be gay.”  I call these women PP’s, the Proactive Partners.

The other fifty percent of women say for them the first three dates are actually the ones used to hold the guys off before letting them pull Mr. Wiggly out.  They’re willing to have sex on the third date, but they believe in taking the “I’m not that kind of girl” approach, at least in the beginning.  These are the women I call the RP’s, the Reactive Partners. 

But what do the guys think?  Do they believe in the Third Date Phenomenon?  The answer of course is they believe in any phenomenon that will get them sex.  But sex between a man and a woman is like and electrical plug and a wall socket.  The plug goes into the socket … it’s not the other way around.  I’ve never seen a wall socket jump on a plug, but I can see where it could be a real problem for the plug! 

As a result, most guys prefer an RP girl over a PP girl.  Imagine a guy picks up a girl for a first date.  Later at her place, she jumps his bones on the couch, plays the French version of post office for about fifteen seconds, then aggressively jettisons her britches and starts to climb aboard.  But he notices his space shuttle isn’t assuming the usual blast-off position just yet, so he kills the countdown.  “Houston, we have a problem!”  The guy’s plug is simply not accustomed to being jumped by a wall socket it barely knows.  He thought it was supposed to be the other way around.  He thought he would be slipping his plug into her socket as soon as he could grab hold of the stiff cord! 

In one study, ninety five percent of the men surveyed said they want a PP girl.  Only five percent said they preferred an RP girl.  What about you ladies?  Are you a PP or an RP girl?  And do you believe in the Third Date Phenomenon?  Guys, who do you prefer, a PP or an RP girl?  And is the Third Date Phenomenon real?  What do you think?

Ron Stout has a B.A. in Psychology and an M.S. in Counseling & Human Development. He is an adjunct professor teaching college courses in Educational Psychology, Human Development, and Personal & Social Adjustment, and he is the author of the popular book Secrets From Inside The Clubhouse: What Men REALLY Think About Women.

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